Well, because Nancy and Paul gave away their personality types, I figure I will too.
I’m an ENFP. What’s funny though is I was looking through a section of the personality page (http://www.personalitypage.com), and found a thing about kids. I had done a bit of reasearch into MBTI before becuase I find it very interesting. Anyway, we aren’t born with complete traits, but build into them. When we’re very young, we have the E or I and P or J; in the pre-teenage years we gain T or F; and finally towards adulthood we gain N or S. It was funny to read how I was as a kid (ENP), because there are so many things that fit me to a T:
They have a lot of energy
They’re curious about everything, and seem to be always asking “Why?”
They have lots of ideas and love to talk about them
They always have several projects going on
They want to be original and interesting
They like to be leaders, and resist following
They’re very social
They’re very independent, and want to do things for themselves
They want to be the center of attention
They probably tend to be dramatic, and enjoy acting or performing
They’re outspoken and energetic, and may interrupt frequently, or finish people’s sentences for them
They’re usually cheerful, optimistic, and fun to be around
They’re enthusiastic and fearless
They believe that anything is possible
They have very good communication skills and a strong ability to persuade others to come around to their point of view
They usually have a good vocabulary, and can express themselves well in written and verbal form
They’re very clever
They show an unusual understanding of people and situations for a child
They have good people skills and are usually well-liked
They naturally see the possibilities of a situation and the “big picture”
They frequently forget rules, or else they never knew them in the first place
They have a lot of projects going on at one time, and may be scattered
They frequently don’t finish their projects
They’re usually very messy, and dislike cleaning up
They tend to speak in a very loud voice without realizing it
They have difficulty making decisions, and often resist decisions
They are often unaware of their physical environment
They may not take good care of themselves
They’re not usually very aware of time or schedules
They don’t like being controlled by others, and may be rebellious
They dislike being asked to do anything, and will often act very “put upon” by any request
…reading that, it’s no surprise I was often fussed at because I did a poor job staying on task, was yelled at for being loud, but also scored in the 90th percentile in the reading section of the IOWA tests.
…anyway, this is what I’m like now:
Portrait of an ENFP – Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving
(Extraverted Intuition with Introverted Feeling)
As an ENFP, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you take things in primarily via your intuition. Your secondary mode is internal, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit in with your personal value system.
ENFPs are warm, enthusiastic people, typically very bright and full of potential. They live in the world of possibilities, and can become very passionate and excited about things. Their enthusiasm lends them the ability to inspire and motivate others, more so than we see in other types. They can talk their way in or out of anything. They love life, seeing it as a special gift, and strive to make the most out of it.
ENFPs have an unusually broad range of skills and talents. They are good at most things which interest them. Project-oriented, they may go through several different careers during their lifetime. To onlookers, the ENFP may seem directionless and without purpose, but ENFPs are actually quite consistent, in that they have a strong sense of values which they live with throughout their lives. Everything that they do must be in line with their values. An ENFP needs to feel that they are living their lives as their true Self, walking in step with what they believe is right. They see meaning in everything, and are on a continuous quest to adapt their lives and values to achieve inner peace. They’re constantly aware and somewhat fearful of losing touch with themselves. Since emotional excitement is usually an important part of the ENFP’s life, and because they are focused on keeping “centered”, the ENFP is usually an intense individual, with highly evolved values.
An ENFP needs to focus on following through with their projects. This can be a problem area for some of these individuals. Unlike other Extraverted types, ENFPs need time alone to center themselves, and make sure they are moving in a direction which is in sync with their values. ENFPs who remain centered will usually be quite successful at their endeavors. Others may fall into the habit of dropping a project when they become excited about a new possibility, and thus they never achieve the great accomplishments which they are capable of achieving.
Most ENFPs have great people skills. They are genuinely warm and interested in people, and place great importance on their inter-personal relationships. ENFPs almost always have a strong need to be liked. Sometimes, especially at a younger age, an ENFP will tend to be “gushy” and insincere, and generally “overdo” in an effort to win acceptance. However, once an ENFP has learned to balance their need to be true to themselves with their need for acceptance, they excel at bringing out the best in others, and are typically well-liked. They have an exceptional ability to intuitively understand a person after a very short period of time, and use their intuition and flexibility to relate to others on their own level.
Because ENFPs live in the world of exciting possibilities, the details of everyday life are seen as trivial drudgery. They place no importance on detailed, maintenance-type tasks, and will frequently remain oblivous to these types of concerns. When they do have to perform these tasks, they do not enjoy themselves. This is a challenging area of life for most ENFPs, and can be frustrating for ENFP’s family members.
An ENFP who has “gone wrong” may be quite manipulative – and very good it. The gift of gab which they are blessed with makes it naturally easy for them to get what they want. Most ENFPs will not abuse their abilities, because that would not jive with their value systems.
ENFPs sometimes make serious errors in judgment. They have an amazing ability to intuitively perceive the truth about a person or situation, but when they apply judgment to their perception, they may jump to the wrong conclusions.
ENFPs who have not learned to follow through may have a difficult time remaining happy in marital relationships. Always seeing the possibilities of what could be, they may become bored with what actually is. The strong sense of values will keep many ENFPs dedicated to their relationships. However, ENFPs like a little excitement in their lives, and are best matched with individuals who are comfortable with change and new experiences.
Having an ENFP parent can be a fun-filled experience, but may be stressful at times for children with strong Sensing or Judging tendancies. Such children may see the ENFP parent as inconsistent and difficult to understand, as the children are pulled along in the whirlwind life of the ENFP. Sometimes the ENFP will want to be their child’s best friend, and at other times they will play the parental authoritarian. But ENFPs are always consistent in their value systems, which they will impress on their children above all else, along with a basic joy of living.
ENFPs are basically happy people. They may become unhappy when they are confined to strict schedules or mundane tasks. Consequently, ENFPs work best in situations where they have a lot of flexibility, and where they can work with people and ideas. Many go into business for themselves. They have the ability to be quite productive with little supervision, as long as they are excited about what they’re doing.
Because they are so alert and sensitive, constantly scanning their environments, ENFPs often suffer from muscle tension. They have a strong need to be independent, and resist being controlled or labelled. They need to maintain control over themselves, but they do not believe in controlling others. Their dislike of dependence and suppression extends to others as well as to themselves.
ENFPs are charming, ingenuous, risk-taking, sensitive, people-oriented individuals with capabilities ranging across a broad spectrum. They have many gifts which they will use to fulfill themselves and those near them, if they are able to remain centered and master the ability of following through.
I think the biggest thing in there that I think I’m learning more and more is the whole hating to be controlled. I hate that more than anything. I am much, much more likely to be willing to do something if you ask me to do it than tell me to do it. I feel very coerced, as if it isn’t my own work then. That, and I still believe to this day that ANYTHING is possible. People really put themselves down waaaay too much. Just be the tremendous person God created you and you’ll be fine.
I went to church today, and I’m just going to relax the rest of the day. It’s Christmas Eve’s Eve’s Eve!