the newness and relationship talk

Hey everyone –

Thanks, first, for all of your nice comments of late regarding my blog or specific entries.  Have I ever told any of you how much I love my blog?  My friends, it could be the easiest way to get a voice out there.  I never thought so many people would read it, though, and I’m on my way to ecplising 500 entries and 10,000 hits since I started at wordpress.

Hypothetically, if this was average, almost 50,000 hits have registered on my blogs.  That’s wild.  For perpective, that’s like the entire city of  Mentor, Ohio, has read my blog over the last 5 years.

I’m so happy to be back, you have no idea.  I was, to be honest, a little worried about it, as I think everyone is when they have to face the “oh man break is over and now I have to go back to real life” syndrome.  But there’s students, there’s staff, there’s my home.  And I like that.  I’ll admit I even like the snow and the cold weather.

Something that’s been really interesting lately, though, has been the conversations that have been occuring since I’ve been back.  First off, my New Year’s Resolution is to keep track of my friends better.  I tend to lose track progressively of High School and GCC friends, and they’re really only a phone call away.  So I’m going to try to take a couple hours each week and just catch up.  I’ll start by just going through my cell phone phone list.  So, if I have your cell phone number, expect a call.

Anyway, a lot of conversation has been on the topic of relationships and dating.  And I don’t know if part of that is because I recently found someone I really like (and let me tell you, I get nervous putting things like that on my blog… as much as I’m personal, I still try to be rather impersonal… and we did go out on a date, so this isn’t just a random crush) and now I’m more apt to hear these things, or whether it’s people hearts, or it’s just a combination of all of the above.  What’s been nice though is they haven’t been these longing “Oh, woe is me” kind of talks, but constructive conversation.

Too often in this twenty-something time, we get caught up in relationships as if it’s identity issue.  All the recent books that come out about Christian dating either promote or demote relationships, saying we should “celebrate our singleness”.

Tell that to any person who’s been single for awhile, they’ll glare at you.  And we as Christians should be concerned about supporting sweeping policies regarding faith practicies if the people it affects most feel something wrong about it on a deep level.  And, honestly, I think by saying to celebrate singleness, it’s discounting all the other times we can celebrate in our lives – our first relationship, serious dating, engagment, marriage, kids.

We should stop placing the priority on celebrating a phase of life, and rather celebrate God and his consistency throughout all of it.  If we don’t try to that, we find ourselves dangerously close to placing our identity in shifting sands and not in the rock of Creation.  If I spend all my time celebrate singleness, what happens when I find someone?  Am I too afriad?  If I’m celebrating God, I’m thanking Him for every day, one step at a time.  Regardless of relationship, of bank account, of want or need.

Personally, I’m not going to kiss dating goodbye, I’m not going to celebrate my singleness, and I’m not going to cloister myself up in some sort of self-righteous determination.  I’m going to live the life my God apportions to me one step at a time.  I’m going to live the life David writes of in Psalms 57:

Be merciful to me, O God, be merciful to me,
for in you my soul takes refuge;
in the shadow of your wings I will take refuge,
till the storms of destruction pass by.
I cry out to God Most High,
to God who fulfills his purpose for me.
He will send from heaven and save me;
he will put to shame him who tramples on me.

God will send out his steadfast love and his faithfulness!

My soul is in the midst of lions;
I lie down amid fiery beasts–
the children of man, whose teeth are spears and arrows,
whose tongues are sharp swords.

Be exalted, O God, above the heavens!
Let your glory be over all the earth!

They set a net for my steps;
my soul was bowed down.
They dug a pit in my way,
but they have fallen into it themselves.

My heart is steadfast, O God,
my heart is steadfast!
I will sing and make melody!
Awake, my glory!
Awake, O harp and lyre!
I will awake the dawn!
I will give thanks to you, O Lord, among the peoples;
I will sing praises to you among the nations.
For your steadfast love is great to the heavens,
your faithfulness to the clouds.

Be exalted, O God, above the heavens!
Let your glory be over all the earth!

peace to all today.


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